What is it that you want?

The struggle to be clear about what you really want is one of the most challenging aspects of creating success.  We cannot create what we are not clear about and therefore, it is paramount to the manifestation of your dreams that you find tools that serve your ability to know what you really, really want?

What is it that you really, really want?

When you ask yourself this question, what feelings arise for you?  Ease or unease? Confidence or doubt? Clarity or confusion?
If you struggle to answer the question with ease, confidence, and clarity, I assure you that you are not alone.  Almost every person I’ve worked with has struggled to really identify their true desires. And, without getting clear, we risk detering our results and experiencing frustration and internalized defeat.

So, why is it that we have such a hard time articulating our deepest longings?

One main reason, I’ve discovered, is because of our conditioning.  Each of us have a long history with other people influencing our decisions, feelings, and choices.  We’ve been trained by parents, teachers, bosses, spouses, and our communities that to want might be selfish or self-centered.  We’ve been taught to consider what others think about us before what we think of ourselves. We’ve grown accustomed to fear the judgements of others if we choose what we want.  In this landscape, it is too challenging to hear the sound of your own voice and your own desire.

And while social and family norms are not an entirely bad thing, it shouldn’t be a lifelong thing.  To be whole and fulfilled we need to understand our deeper needs, wants, and desires. We can’t build the skill of understanding what we really want when we’re looking through the eyes of our family, friends, partners, and co-workers.  In essence, our collective conditioning isn’t teaching us what we need to know so that we can work towards our wants...for success, love, joy, and prosperity.  
Regardless of the category of success (work, weight-health, relationships, money, purpose), in order to create what you want, you must get clear.  And here is a short list of why:

• The more clear you are about what you want, the easier it will be to build a plan of action towards your goal.
• ​The more clear you are about what you want, the more purposeful and passionate you will be about staying in the action plan.
• The more consistent you are in the action towards your dreams, the faster your wants are manifested.

When we become clear, we move into the dynamic flow of true, authentic success.  Being clear allows you to move towards your wants with action, purpose, and commitment.  And this feels good.  

So, what do you do if you are experiencing challenges to understand what you really want?

First, know that you are not alone. We’ve all been conditioned to think about others needs before our own.  We all have experienced doubt and fear about getting clear on what we want and setting boundaries with others to stay true to ourselves.

Second, learn about the power of EFT Tapping.  EFT Tapping helps us release emotional stress around our goals.  And in the case of identifying what we want, we can use EFT Tapping to liberate the stress from getting clear.  Some examples of what we might Tap on might be:
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• Fearing the disapproval of “others”
• Being overly concerned about how my wants may affect others
• Thinking about “what will they think” if I communicate what I want
• The habit of playing it small or minimizing your wants

EFT Tapping gets to the root of these concerns quickly.  Tapping unblocks the stress of your concerns, freeing you to think of your wants with joy and excitement.  Tapping elicits relaxation and thereby unleashes your natural inclination to move toward what you want! It “cleans up” your mind-body and emotions: releasing old, worn-out conditioning.  

Allow yourself to be free to want what you really, really want.  Get determined to be clear. Get support and please use EFT Tapping!  The world is waiting for your magnificence to shine. Following your clear dreams is part of that!  

Are you ready?  What do you really, really want??